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Do you find yourself constantly walking on eggshells, overanalyzing every interaction, and always trying to “seem okay”? Maybe you always feel like you have to make everyone else happy, even if it means putting yourself last?
You ask yourself questions like, “Why is this affecting me so much?” or “Why am I triggered by ‘stupid shit’?”
You’re definitely not alone. And I get it.
I’m Cheryl Groskopf, and I specialize in working with adults who struggle with anxious and insecure attachment patterns — especially people pleasers and high-functioning adults who look fine on the outside but feel constantly activated in relationships.
Ready to start this journey? Let’s dive in.
Attachment therapy isn’t about blaming your past or endlessly analyzing your childhood.
It’s about understanding how your nervous system learned to stay connected and safe — and helping it develop new options in the present.
In individual attachment-focused therapy, adults often notice:
What Does Insecure Attachment Look Like?
Often worried about their relationships, insecure attachers seek closeness and intimacy – but fearful that others do not reciprocate the feeling. Individuals with anxious ambivalent attachment tend to be overly dependent on others for validation.
Therapy Focus:
Building self-esteem, learning to self-soothe, and developing healthier, more autonomous relationships.
Hey there, I’m Cheryl Groskopf, an attachment-focused anxiety therapist in Los Angeles. You could say I’m a bit of a straight-shooter with a knack for understanding why people do what they do. I use a blend of neuroscience and practical strategies to help you understand how your body reacts to triggers and why you respond the way you do. It’s about connecting the dots between your brain and body to create real, lasting change.
I get it. You want a therapist who understands you, someone who doesn’t just nod and take notes but *actually* gets where you’re coming from. As an experienced attachment therapist in Los Angeles, I’ve helped people pleasers and insecure attachers find their way to a more balanced, fulfilling life.
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things and looking great on paper, but inside you feel like you’re a mess? Like you’ve got the job, the friends, the Instagram-worthy life, but something still feels off? Everything’s connected—mind & body. To create real change, we need to work on all parts of you. It’s not just about talking – it’s about healing from the inside out so you can feel balanced and whole.
Stress and trauma can get stuck in your body, making you feel tense and anxious. You know that tight chest, knots in your stomach, or shoulders that are literally so tense they literally think they’re earrings? With somatic therapy, we’ll work on releasing that tension. Imagine feeling lighter, more relaxed, and truly at ease in your own skin. It’s about feeling safe and grounded again.
Ever feel like you’ve got different parts of yourself fighting for control? One part of you wants to please everyone, another part is pissed off for always giving in. Maybe another part just wants to say, “Fuck it” and hide. IFS helps you understand these parts and get them working together. It’s like getting all those voices in your head to finally chill out and agree on something.
Sick of your anxious attachment style showing up in your relationships?
Reach out today to schedule a consultation for attachment therapy in Los Angeles. Let’s take the first step together towards a life where you’re not constantly second-guessing yourself, where you can say ‘no’ without feeling like the world will end, and where you feel truly comfortable in your own skin.
An attachment therapist helps you recognize and work with the relational patterns that keep repeating in your life — especially anxiety, avoidance, or people-pleasing in close connections. They provide a consistent, attuned therapeutic relationship where these patterns can be safely explored and reshaped. Over time, this helps your nervous system tolerate closeness with less fear and reactivity.
Attachment trauma often shows up as anxiety in close relationships, fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, and intense emotional reactions to perceived distance or rejection. Many adults notice patterns like people-pleasing, hypervigilance to others’ moods, emotional shutdown, or feeling calm alone but activated in intimacy. These responses usually aren’t random — they’re learned ways the nervous system adapted to early relational experiences.
No. Insecure attachment doesn’t require a single “big” or obvious trauma. Many people develop insecure attachment through more subtle, ongoing experiences — like inconsistent caregiving, emotional unavailability, having to grow up too fast, or learning early on that connection felt unpredictable. These patterns form gradually, often in families that looked “fine” from the outside, and can still shape how your nervous system responds to closeness and relationships in adulthood.
Attachment therapy focuses on helping you understand how your nervous system learned to stay connected and safe — and how those patterns show up in your adult relationships. In sessions, you work with a therapist to identify triggers, slow down automatic reactions, and practice new ways of responding to closeness, conflict, and emotional needs. The goal isn’t insight alone, but real, lived change in how relationships feel.
There’s no set timeline for attachment therapy. Some adults notice meaningful shifts within a few months, especially in awareness and emotional regulation, while deeper pattern change often unfolds over longer-term work. Progress depends on your history, current stressors, and how entrenched the patterns are — but the work is collaborative and paced to support real, sustainable change.
If you’re ready to break free from those old patterns and start living life on your terms, let’s do this together. Reach out today to schedule your consultation for attachment therapy in Los Angeles. Your journey to a more balanced, fulfilling life starts now.
I help navigate the challenges that influenced the attachment you developed with your caregiver(s), and how to deal with anxious attachment triggers. I also specialize in the treatment of trauma, Complex PTSD, and anxiety.
